I thought you might be interested in the above article. I'm sure it will strike a chord with many of you and one for you to reflect upon.
As always, I'm keen to read your thoughts.
Thanks to Jen who teaches the other Nursing class Communication who referred me to this article.
All the best,
Mark
It's a hard thing to balance life but if you work it properly then everything will fall in to place.
ReplyDeleteI'm a nurses child and i can't say that i was ever like that with my mum. Now i don't know if that was because i was so used to it or maybe i knew deep down i was following in that path.
I can totally understand however why she may feel like that and i feel like we do overthink everything as we focus so much on trying to keep our family happy but also in the retrospect of becoming a nurse, the patients feelings too.
I think she may be overthinking it and it comes back to mother's guilt as if it's drummed into us. Well thats my opinion anyways
i'm not even sure all this makes sense or if it even comes to an opinion :)
That was so sad to read. I do agree with Coop though that she may be overthinking it a bit - all working parents feel the guilt of missing things. I know I feel guilty when I miss my children taking part in a sponsored dance, a family birthday party or even just spending a day doing crafts with their dad.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how different careers will affect that guilt but I would like to believe that saving lives/helping people would make me feel less guilty (or rather the job will feel more worth the sacrifices) than working retail.
Steph O
This letter was incredibly sad to read. I can relate to how she feels, working long hours, unsociable hours, bank holidays, summer holidays etc. After a shift you are totally drained and I feel so guilty because my girl is in bed when I get home and the most I get with her is the hour in the morning before work, which is a rush at the best of times. I agree with Coop when she says you have to have the right work/life balance. There's always something that can be done to create time to spend with loved ones around special circumstances such as parents nights, dancing shows etc! I write my girl messages everyday to tell her how much I love her, we have a book we write all our special messages in. She understands how important my job is, and that means a lot to me.
ReplyDeleteLove it Beth, the wee book what an excellent idea I'm honestly moved by this xx
DeleteSome great reflections here, thanks for these. Keep them coming.
ReplyDeleteThis is indeed a sad letter to read. I feel she is writing out all of her emotions which I have always thought to be a good idea to get it out. Her children may not even feel the was she does because they are used to life the way it is. All the same it is sad and it is a difficult decision. For this woman, it sounds like she was already qualified as a nurse before she had a family so rightly so she was considering her career as you would do at 18 with no family, and now she has a family the guilt sets in. I have a nursing friend who wanted to qualify as a nurse before starting a family and I know she now feels the same after now having 2 children but she always says she would never change a thing, she loves her job and she loves her family. I was young when I had my family and it is only now that my family are much older that I can do this course / work but I know they will still miss me and there will be times I still won't be there when they want me too but they are old enough now to understand.
ReplyDeleteLife is never easy and choices are never easy, I just count my blessings every day